On those days

The month of February always makes me think about our concept of love and yes it has everything to do with the fact that Cupid has painted the town red.

Growing up I used to have a very unhealthy attitude towards Valentine’s Day (something I out grew over the years when I began to understand consumerism). My Mum and Dad were really cute, some years they would send my sister and I presents, so we wouldn’t feel left out. Even though I now laugh about those horrifying rejections of past Valentines, they weren’t always so funny.

Because essentially that’s what it’s about isn’t it? Not feeling rejected, feeling left out or unaccepted, but people don’t just feel that way on Valentine’s Day, it just gets horribly heightened on February the 14th.

Like everyone, I struggle on days, my insecurities get the best of me, I wasn’t always good at overcoming those feelings. It’s so easy to love ourselves when we feel fabulous, learning to love myself on the days I don’t, is something I am still working with.

I wanted to share this with you because we are all in the same boat, I don’t want anyone to feel alone and unloved on any day of the year. It’s really hard, it is a very painful feeling and it isn’t easy to always love yourself. So let’s just own that, let’s say, it isn’t easy but I am still going to do it. I don’t have a magic formula, but developing a strong sense of self-value is the most important thing we can do for ourselves.

A sweet treat always helps, so on one of those days, I bake, because I find it really therapeutic! I love a red velvet cupcake and I finally adapted my favourite Hummingbird recipe for a cleaner eat and here it is!


(Makes 6)

1/3 cup of coconut oil
1 cup of coconut sugar
1 egg
1/3 cup beetroot purée (just boil a beetroot until soft and then blend it)
1/8 cup cacao powder
1tsp vanilla essence
1 cup of buckwheat flour
1/2tsp salt
120ml almond milk with 1tbsp of Apple cider vinegar stirred into it
1/2tsp bicarbonate soda
1tbsp White wine vinegar

To serve: a batch of your favourite frosting, I love blitzing a cup of soaked cashews with 1/4 cup goats cheese, 1tbsp of agave and 1/4 cup of water.

Preheat oven to 350F and line a cupcake tin with six cases.

With an electric mixer, whip the coconut oil, sugar and egg together.

Combine the betroot, cacao and vanilla essence in to a paste and mix well with the coconut oil, sugar and egg.

Mix the flour with salt and fold half of it into the wet ingredients. Add half the almond milk, stir and then add the rest of the flour and fold in with the remaining milk.

Add the bicarbonate soda and vinegar and stir into the batter. Pour the batter into the cupcake cases and bake for 20-25 minutes until they are sponge like to touch.

Once cool, ice them with your frosting and they are ready to be devoured!


If Only Cupid Were Quirky Too

It began as a young teen, when I saved up all my pocket money to buy a crush what I thought was the greatest present ever, a teddy bear, a card with hearts and a box of chocolates (I may even have thrown in a rose, though I can’t really remember). In those days, our high school had a gift delivery system, you would give your present and the name of your crush to the service and they would see that your package reached the recipient.

In our last lesson of the day, the ‘giftogram’ shows up, by this point it is me who is crushed when my Valentine is mortified by the sentiment and the whole class erupts with mockery. It was a disaster waiting to happen; the impressionable broken hearted young girl that I was, couldn’t have known that, what with all the advertised promises that 14th of February brings.

After the failed endeavors of the past, in recent years, I’ve developed a much healthier attitude to celebrating the 14th of February away from heart shaped chocolates, red champagne flutes and oyster shaped petri dishes. The moral of the story is not to put so much pressure on one day and to relax, it’s not the end of the world, it is just Valentine’s Day (I say while dedicating a blog to it).

If you are looking to mark the day, by celebrating yourself, your loved one or your friends, here are some healthy ways to do it that are sure to go beyond just one day of the year!  

May your Valentine be healthy and happy, except for you Cupid!     

For the love of food – Eating the Alkaline Way by Natasha Corrett and Vicki Edgson

It’s no secret that I’m a foodie but going to a restaurant on Valentines Day is not for me. My evolving love affair with food this year is all about being Honestly Healthy, so I gifted myself the book. If your beloved is also a food lover, this book is a real treat, full of delicious healthy mouthwatering recipes that you can enjoy all year round. For a night of food and passion, why not cook up some Tomato, Coconut and Chilli Soup for starters, Red Rice and Beet Risotto for a main course and try some chocolate mousse for dessert?


Don’t forget the roses and bubbly – Jo Malone Red Roses Bath and Hand Wash

Everyone loves roses and bubbly for a romantic occasion, but why not indulge in it a little differently? I got hooked on to Jo Malone a few years ago when one of my best friends was getting married; the beautiful scents from that day have stayed with me. The Red Roses collection by Jo Malone is a blend of the world’s most exquisite roses; this fragrant bouquet lives up to the promise of a rich and memorable lather.

It’s the little things that count – Aveda New Dry Remedy Daily Moisturising Oil

Sometimes, a little something will go a long way! Usually when at the Aveda store or institute I’m unable to resist their delicious licorice root tea this time, the girl doing my hair treated my ends to a few drops of this oil and of course I’m now hooked on this. For lasting soft shiny hair, that’s silicone free, this loving remedy leaves one head over heels.

Not just for a day – Le Creuset Cast Iron Round Casserole

A loving aunt and uncle knew they were doing when they gave us one of these as a wedding gift. They told us it was perfect for all our future at home gourmet adventures and how right they were. The Le Creuset pink cast iron round casserole may be limited edition but it comes with a lifetime guarantee.

For the games we don’t play – Playstation 4

To my awesome husband, please buy me one 😉